A pacing test

Attaching Too Fast

Fast doesn't mean fake. But it does mean the feeling arrived before the evidence did — and the two are easy to confuse from the inside.

Twelve questions about pace. Not about whether they're right for you.

The 12 questions

1. How long have you actually known them?
2. How far into the future have you pictured this going?
3. Have you seen them handle something going wrong?
4. How much of your week has rearranged itself around them?
5. What happens when they take a while to reply?
6. Have people told you before that you move fast?
7. Could you list three things you don't like about them?
8. What does being wanted by them feel like?
9. How are your friendships doing since this started?
10. How much of what you know about them came from them?
11. Has intensity been the thing before?
12. Gut check — if this ended tomorrow, what would hurt most?

Answer all 12 and you get a scored read: what the answers add up to, what it means, and the three that decided it. One payment, nothing renews.