A distance test
Am I Clingy
Someone said it, or you've started wondering it yourself. Either way you're now managing how much you want — which is its own kind of exhausting.
Twelve questions about what you actually do, not about how much you feel.
The 12 questions
- Who starts most of the contact between you?
- What do you do in the hour after a message goes unanswered?
- Do you check whether they're online, or whether it's been read?
- Who has called you clingy?
- Do you write and rewrite messages before sending?
- Have you rearranged or dropped your own plans to stay available?
- Is this how you are with everyone, or with this person?
- How often do you ask for reassurance?
- When you do get reassurance, how long does it hold?
- Have you deliberately held back to seem less keen?
- What are they doing while you're doing all this?
- Gut check — what is the reaching actually for?