A line test

Emotional Cheating

Nothing physical happened. That's the sentence that makes this so hard to argue about — and so easy for someone to wave away.

Twelve questions about where the attention went. Not about what was touched.

The 12 questions

1. Did you know this person existed before you found out?
2. Where did the conversations happen?
3. What got shared there that didn't get shared with you?
4. How did they describe your relationship to this person?
5. When you raised it, what was the first thing they did?
6. Did they stop when you asked?
7. What was the timing like?
8. Did their behaviour toward you change over the same period?
9. If you'd sent the same messages, how would they have taken it?
10. Had the two of you ever agreed where the line was?
11. What did they do once they knew you'd seen?
12. Gut check — what are you actually struggling with?

Answer all 12 and you get a scored read: what the answers add up to, what it means, and the three that decided it. One payment, nothing renews.