Graitick

A proportion test

That One Thing

There's one thing they do that gets you every single time. You know exactly what it is — you thought of it before you finished reading this sentence.

Twelve questions about that one thing. Whether it's actually the thing is the part worth knowing.

The 12 questions

  1. How long has this particular thing bothered you?
  2. Does it bother you as much on a good day as a bad one?
  3. Have you actually told them it bothers you?
  4. When you did raise it, what happened?
  5. If a friend did the exact same thing, how would you feel?
  6. What goes through you in the moment it happens?
  7. Is it the act itself, or what you think it says about them?
  8. Do you mention it to other people?
  9. Has your list of these things grown?
  10. When they do something thoughtful, how does it land?
  11. Is there something bigger you haven't said?
  12. Gut check — if they stopped doing it tomorrow, would you be happy?

Answer all 12 and you get a scored read: what the answers add up to, what it means, and the three that decided it. One payment, nothing renews.