A repair test
Trust After Lying
The lie is over. That part is settled. What isn't settled is whether anything has actually changed since — in them, or in you.
Twelve questions about what's happened since you found out. Not about what happened before.
The 12 questions
- Since it came out, have they volunteered information without being asked?
- How did they react the first time you brought it up again?
- Have you checked their phone, location, or story since?
- What happens in your body when their phone buzzes?
- When something small doesn't add up now, what does it feel like?
- Did they change anything concrete, or just apologise?
- Who brings it up these days?
- Have you told them the full truth about how you're doing?
- How do you feel when they're out and you don't hear from them?
- Has anyone else been let in on what happened?
- If it happened once more, what would you do?
- Gut check — are you rebuilding, or waiting?